I wrote this book based on many devastating challenges that I have seen and experienced in the American family evolution over the last 18 years. I also wrote the book in hopes that it helps men and women make better decisions in thier lives as it relates to responsibility and family obligations that affect the next generation. I hope my thoughts today will reflect that dedication and pursiut of successful fmaily planning in the future.
I feel the American family structure is currently changing and has been changing over the last 20 years. For example 6.4 million children are born out of wed lock today. Over 50% of marriages end in Divorce and most families today never have evening dinner together any more. We are now in the hurry up and going no where society. The facts alone are alarming but also very true of our society. Another example of the decay of the the American family specifically when African-American families have a 72% single parent house hold. Latino families have a 40% single parent house hold. Caucasion European families have a 36% single parent house hold in America according to the 2007 Census report. It shows how the American family is ever changing and also what American family challenges that will be comfronted in American society in the future. It seems to me the root of many of the problems of unwed mothers have been the acceptance of the decay in the American family. A lack of education and the instant generation has become the issue of where our society and family life has now evolved into.
It seems that most of the women and men who have unplanned children early in life, most of them have a low education and no goals that prevent the detour of the mistakes of unplanned pregnancies. Furthermore, a great mislead issue is when most of the American families repeat the mistakes of the previous generations before them because the societal conditions that existed for the previous generation has not improved for their children. Unfortunately, this now becomes a generational issue of the next parents of the children of today.
The problem that can interfere with a blended family having a great life would be the Baby Mother or Baby Daddy that is attached to the child itself that attempts to separate a family when the biological Mom or Dad wants to move on. The Baby Mother to the child can not leave a state with the child to live out of state, even if she has married someone else. This is a court order called Joint legal status that gives a Baby Daddy as much custody to parent as the Baby Mother even without a marriage as one can see this can leave a blended family with severe hardships and ultimately even end in a devasting divorce. Moreover, Joint legal status court orders however is a state by state issue an not the law in every state. You must check your state to make sure that this law does not affect your relationship if you are planning on moving on from a Baby Daddy or Baby Mother.
I urge every unwed mother to actually never go to court without an Attorney against a Baby Daddy. If a woman represents herself in court without legal representation of a good Attorney, she is a fool. Women must use an Attorney to voice and present their issues to the court against the Baby Daddy in order to preserve the right to keep the freedom of having her life to move on with the child. Rachel, a character in the book, “Invasion of the Baby Daddy” did not have an Attorney trying to play the system that the woman gets the child, unfortunately this strategy proved most devasting to her life. Most importantly, be honest about your life and your choices in life and the challenges that a woman has to consider when she has a child in an unplanned parental situation.
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Author Dr. John Bell has a Masters degree in Health Services from Strayer University and currently serves as a professor at Strayer University at Shelby Oaks campus in Memphis, TN. Dr. Bell has a Doctorate of Podiatric Medicine from Ohio College of Podiatric Medicine in Cleveland, Ohio. Dr. Bell is currently a practicing Surgical Podiatrist at 4 locations throughout the Memphis and Greater West TN community. He is a Veteran of the Gulf War serving 10 years in the U.S. Navy. Bell is also a member of the Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity. Dr. Bell has one daughter.