After majoring in psychology in college, Helen Laibach realized that her aspirations to be a marriage, child, and family counselor did not suit her temperament–so she began a family and chose a more satisfying career as an executive assistant. An avid reader and talented nature photographer, Laibach lives in Southern California with her husband of twenty years and their youngest daughter. A SOUL LESS BROKEN is her first book; 10% of the profits from the sale of the book will be donated to charities related to violence against women and to brain cancer research and treatment.
You can visit her website at www.helenlaibach.com.
by Helen Laibach
One of the stories I heard years ago, that was the inspiration for the book and which inspires me to this day, was an interview with a woman who had been attacked while she was jogging. It was a vicious, brutal attack, one that she almost didn’t survive; it was clear that her attacker had left her for dead. But in spite of these circumstances and all her suffering, she remained amazingly positive. The interviewer asked her, “How is it, after all that he did to you, that you aren’t bitter? How do you not go through life hating the man that did this to you?” And the woman replied, “That man took one night of my life. I refuse to give him any more.” I knew after hearing her comment that I wanted to write a story about a woman overcoming being the victim of a horrible tragedy and regaining her personal power.
One of the most challenging lessons facing all of us in life is realizing that at any given moment, in any given situation we still have a choice. No matter what is being “done to us” or how others are “making us feel”, we still can choose how we react, and how we respond. Either we can choose to be a victim, giving our emotional power away allowing others to control our happiness, or we can take a stand and decide that today is the day we are the ones in control of our emotions.
Granted, no one said that such an education would be easy to acquire, or to practice - quite the contrary. The central character Catherin, in A Soul Less Broken, must discover this and it is hands down one of the hardest lessons any of us will ever face. But it’s also the one that will give us the most peace.
So the next time someone or something “makes you mad” or “makes you upset” try to remember that you still can choose again. Maybe not right then in the moment, but when you’re ready, you can choose a different reaction, one that serves you better, one that helps you feel more at peace. You can take your power back. The choice is yours.