The Story Behind Don’t Hit Me! by Vanessa de Largie

Don’t Hit Me! is a unique book about the intricacies of abuse. I was looking through a journal from my time in a violent relationship and realised I had captured domestic violence in real time.

Don't Hit Me!I decided to self-publish my raw journal with minimal editing, keeping it organic. The narrative is conveyed through journal entries, poetry and lyrical prose – which is an unusual format for a book on this subject. It happens to work well though, mirroring the brokenness and disjointedness of abuse.

Within a few weeks it was a #1 Amazon Bestseller in several countries. It went on to win the 2014 Global eBook Award (bronze) for women’s studies in Santa Barbara and also received honorable mention at The 2014 London Book Festival in the memoir category.

Don’t Hit Me! received an abundance of five-star reviews from around the globe, including reviews from the prestigious San Francisco Book Review, Midwest Book Review and the #1 Amazon Hall of Fame Reviewer in the UK.

In January 2015, nine months after it’s initial release. It was picked up by Seattle publisher Booktrope who re-released it as a paperback and eBook. Holding my paperback has been the biggest thrill of this journey, it makes it tangible and real. It’s also a buzz, that the book has been so successful. I am incredibly humbled by that.

I’ve had emails, tweets and Facebook messages from women and men all over the world, thanking me for publishing this book. I receive every message with the deepest gratitude. It’s an honor to connect with my readers. It’s also an honor to connect with other victims and survivors.

The book has a life of its own now away from me. It is free and through the healing powers of telling my story – so am I.


Vanessa de LargieVanessa de Largie is a multi-award-winning actress and author based in Australia. She was introduced into the world of make-believe when she was 3.  Her mother was a film buff, who made her watch films from the 50’s era. Her father, an avid reader and vinyl collector gave her a love of books and music. Combined, her parents influence allowed her to know early on, what she wanted to do with her life. At 22, Vanessa left her hometown of Perth for Melbourne and within a month, she had a lead role in a play at Melbourne’s La Mama Theatre. Over the next decade, she would begin to hone her craft.

In 2006, Vanessa was cast in the lead role of Nocturne, Night of The Vampire, directed by prolific Melbourne film maker Bill Mousoulis. The film earned her the Best Female Actor Award at the 2007 Melbourne Underground Film Festival.  The film was accepted into the main program of the Athens Film Festival, Cork Film Festival and the Brussels Fantastic Film Festival. Vanessa was flown over as a guest. (Nocturne, Night of The Vampire is now distributed by Troma.)

In 2009, Vanessa was cast as the lead in horror film Context, the film premiered at the Razor Reel Film Festival in Bruges, in which Vanessa flew over as a guest.  Context is part of the extras on the American release of El Monstro Del Mar by Breaking Glass Pictures Distribution.  (Unfortunately it isn’t listed on the dvd’s cover.)

Later in 2009, Vanessa was accepted into the New Actors Workshop in New York, run by famous film director – Mike Nichols (The Graduate.)  On her return she worked on the film Crazy In The Night starring film director Frank Howson and Prisoner actors Tommy Dysart and Joan Brockenshire.  Vanessa won a second Best Female Actor Award at the 2010 Melbourne Underground Film Festival for her leading role in the film.

In 2011, Vanessa was selected as a Victorian finalist in The Miss Pinup Australia Pageant, where she competed under the title Miss V-Bomb. She was given a spread in Beat Magazine as well as being interviewed by various Victorian newspapers.

In 2012, Vanessa became a freelance writer and mentor for Topic Media, writing over 90 lifestyle articles and winning many writing awards.  That year, she was also commissioned by Australian publisher Hampress to write her erotic memoir Tantric Afternoons.

Tantric Afternoons launched in April 2013 to rave reviews.  Vanessa followed the book’s release with 4 more titles – Tough ChoicePowers At PlayLascivious and her latest book, Don’t Hit Me!

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